THE NEGATIVE EFFECTS OF PORNOGRAPHY – A CASE STUDY OF KING DAVID
"But I say unto you,
That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery
with her already in his heart.
Mathew_5:28(KJV)
Kunle and Demilola were college lovers, who happily got married after a
very blissful and inspiring relationship. Just like some marriages, Kunle and
Demilola started their own family with good jobs and a balance family live;
they were able to make time out of their busy schedule to spend quality time
with their two adorable kids as well as make time for the things of God. They
were committed members of their local community church and their family life
and faith served as an inspiration for a lot of people in the community;
the
young men and women of their local community wished to one day grow up and
become an exact replica of this couple. Their two kids, Shola and John were one
of the well- behaved and cultured kids in the community, just like their parents,
many children in the community were being positively influence by them; their
mannerism became a point of correction for most parents who were trying to
correct and reprimand their recalcitrant kids.
Along the line of his career Kunle, had a new colleague at his work
place called Muja. Muja was one of the best civil engineers with a proven track
record in the whole country. So Kunle was excited at the prospect of partnering
Muja to execute one of biggest engineering project in his home state, somewhere
north eastern part of the country. He saw it as an opportunity to learn under the
feet of one of the best engineers in the country, so as to improve his own
track record and advance in his career.
Along the line of executing this
project, Kunle and Muja as Team leaders of this project developed a very close
affinity, this relationship was kind of lopsided as Muja’s values and way of
living began to overshadow that of Kunle. Muja began to expose Kunle to
watching seductive magazines during their leisure time at the project site,
when Kunle objected to it Muja with his domineering influence prevailed over Kunle’s
values he has held over the years.
So from watching seductive magazine, Kunle
through the influence of Muja moved to watching pornographic movies online and
his newly acquired downward immoral spiral continued until Kunle got addicted
to hard core pornography. The addiction to this hardcore pornography led Kunle, to start going
after commercial sex workers who were well trained to satisfy his sexual
fantasies and escapades. These sexual encounters continued on weekly basis, and
finally led to Kunle cutting his trip back home to his family from weekly basis
to monthly, since his wife does not seem to be well versed in the art of sexual
acrobatic that he is beginning to get used to.
This behavior started destroying
the inspiring family and religious life that Kunle’s family had built over the
years; Kunle began to desire less of his wife’s company and started giving
excuses anytime that he was supposed to make love to his wife. Kunle’s absence
in the home began to affect the up-bringing of his kids, since he was mostly
not around to provide the necessary fatherly influence that is needed to raise
the kids. The excuses to his wife and kids as well as his moral degradation
continued till his wife began to get worried.
Having noticed satanic infiltration
of her home, Demilola begun to commit her marital problem to God in prayer,
after several confrontation with her husband Kunle backfired. The more she
prayed, the more Kunle’s newly acquired negative habit seemed to continue, but
Demilola, never gave up on her Husband. She kept praying for him, until Kunle
began to notice the mess he had gotten himself into. He noticed the gradual destruction
of the moral fiber of his kids, owing to his absence. Besides this, he found
himself spending all his money on one particular sex worker because of her
threats to blackmail him with videos and pictures of their sexual encounters.
This threat of blackmail began to have negative effects on Kunle’s
finances and focus at work. This led to his eventual dismissal from work and
suspension of his engineering license. At this juncture, Kunle noticed the quagmire he found himself
in. Kunle disgracefully went back home to his family in Lagos. After many days
of praying for her husband, Demilola decided with her pastor to talk to her
husband about the situation again,
but to their amazement Kunle burst into
tears and narrated the situation he had found himself in and asked for the
forgiveness of God, his wife and his kids.
His pastor organized counselling sections coupled with fasting and
prayers to help Kunle out of the addiction he had found himself in. Kunle’s
inner desire, to make things right with God was the turning factor in this
situation. His inner desire to want to please God and do the right things is
what led him to overcome his addiction debacle.
The bible talked about similar accounts of The great King David in 2 Samuel 11:1-27 (KJV) “And
it came to pass, after the year was expired, at the time when kings go forth to battle, that David sent Joab, and
his servants with him, and all Israel; and they destroyed the children of
Ammon, and besieged Rabbah. But David tarried still at Jerusalem. And it came
to pass in an eveningtide, that David arose from off his bed, and walked upon
the roof of the king's house: and from the roof he saw a woman washing herself;
and the woman was very
beautiful to look upon. And David sent and enquired after the woman.
And one said, Is not this Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam, the wife of Uriah
the Hittite? And David sent messengers,
and took her; and she came in unto him, and he lay with her; for she was
purified from her uncleanness: and she returned unto her house. And the woman conceived, and sent and told
David, and said, I am with
child. And David sent to Joab, saying, Send me Uriah the Hittite.
And Joab sent Uriah to David. And when Uriah was come unto him, David demanded of him how Joab did, and how the
people did, and how the war prospered.
And David said to Uriah, Go down to thy house, and wash thy feet. And
Uriah departed out of the king's house, and there followed him a mess of meat from the king. But Uriah
slept at the door of the king's house with all the servants of his lord, and
went not down to his house. And when they had told David, saying, Uriah went
not down unto his house, David said unto Uriah, Camest thou not from thy journey? why then didst thou not go down unto
thine house? And Uriah said unto David, The ark, and Israel, and Judah, abide
in tents; and my lord Joab, and the servants of my lord, are encamped in the
open fields;
shall I then go into mine house, to eat and to drink, and to lie
with my wife? as thou livest,
and as thy soul liveth, I will
not do this thing. And David said to
Uriah, Tarry here to day also, and to morrow I will let thee depart. So Uriah
abode in Jerusalem that day, and the morrow. And when David had called him, he
did eat and drink before him; and he made him drunk: and at even he went out to
lie on his bed with the servants of his lord, but went not down to his house. And
it came to pass in the morning, that David wrote a letter to Joab, and sent it by the hand of Uriah.
And he wrote
in the letter, saying, Set ye Uriah in the forefront of the hottest battle, and
retire ye from him, that he may be smitten, and die. And it came to pass, when
Joab observed the city, that he assigned Uriah unto a place where he knew that
valiant men were. And the men
of the city went out, and fought with Joab: and there fell some of the people of the servants of
David; and Uriah the Hittite died also. Then Joab sent and told David all the
things concerning the war; And charged the messenger, saying,
When thou hast
made an end of telling the matters of the war unto the king, And if so be that
the king's wrath arise, and he say unto thee, Wherefore approached ye so nigh
unto the city when ye did fight? knew ye not that they would shoot from the
wall? Who smote Abimelech the son of Jerubbesheth? did not a woman cast a piece
of a millstone upon him from the wall, that he died in Thebez? why went ye nigh
the wall? then say thou, Thy servant Uriah the Hittite is dead also. So the
messenger went, and came and shewed David all that Joab had sent him for.
And the messenger said unto David, Surely the
men prevailed against us, and came out unto us into the field, and we were upon
them even unto the entering of the gate. And the shooters shot from off the
wall upon thy servants; and some
of the king's servants be dead, and thy servant Uriah the Hittite is dead also.
Then David said unto the messenger, Thus shalt thou say unto Joab, Let not this
thing displease thee, for the sword devoureth one as well as another:
make thy
battle more strong against the city, and overthrow it: and encourage thou him.
And when the wife of Uriah heard that Uriah her husband was dead, she mourned
for her husband. And when the mourning was past, David sent and fetched her to
his house, and she became his wife, and bare him a son. But the thing that
David had done displeased the LORD.”
Just like King David, Kunle’s exposure to illicit sexual views led him to
adultery that eventually destroyed his reputation and brought shame to him.
David’s sexual encounter also led to unwanted pregnancy, killing of an innocent
soul - Uriah, the God-fearing husband of Bathsheba according to 2nd Samuel 11:15-17 and the death of an
unborn child according to 2nd
Samuel 12:13-18 .
Just like Kunle’s illicit sexual encounter led to
blaspheming of God’s name in his local community, David’s adultery also led to
blaspheming of God’s name according to 2Samuel
12:14A (KJV) “Howbeit, because by this deed thou hast given great occasion to the
enemies of the LORD to blaspheme…………….” .
TO BE CONTINUED
NEXT WEEK WITH THE SUB TOPIC -“What Is Pornography”
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