“HOW TO OVERCOME PORNOGRAPHIC ADDICTION 1”




“He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy.”   
Proverbs 28:13 (KJV)

Pornographic addiction just like any other sin plaguing the human race can be overcome. However, overcoming this magnetic addiction is only possible when the addict comes to terms with the fact that he has a problem, needs  a help and the fact that the help can only come when he collaborate with God. Let Go back and study King David attitude towards the sin of sexual impropriety he finds himself in according to 2 Samuel 12:12 -13 (KJV) “For thou didst it secretly: but I will do this thing before all Israel, and before the sun. And David said unto Nathan, I have sinned against the LORD. And Nathan said unto David, The LORD also hath put away thy sin; thou shalt not die.”

You will notice from the verse 13A of the scripture when the Lord confronted King David sins through Prophet Nathan he responded by saying “And David said unto Nathan, I have sinned against the LORD” If you take a careful look at King David’s confessions of his secret sins, his first regret and confession is the fact that he has sinned against God – his confession showed that he deeply loved God and hated his sins. That was the turning point of his victory against that unfortunate sin- remember what the bible says in 1 John 1:9(KJV) “ If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” 

The Lord almighty forgave King David of this grievous sins when he confessed it. Intriguingly, King Saul also committed a sin that was less damaging than of David, yet the Lord rejected Him. Why? It was his attitude toward his sins when he was confronted that make the difference. In the case of King Saul it was his non-acceptance of his mistakes and shifting of blame that robbed him of God’s acceptance and forgiveness. 

It was recorded of King Saul 1st Samuel 15:19 -23 (KJV)” Wherefore then didst thou not obey the voice of the LORD, but didst fly upon the spoil, and didst evil in the sight of the LORD? And Saul said unto Samuel, Yea, I have obeyed the voice of the LORD, and have gone the way which the LORD sent me, and have brought Agag the king of Amalek, and have utterly destroyed the Amalekites. But the people took of the spoil, sheep and oxen, the chief of the things which should have been utterly destroyed, to sacrifice unto the LORD thy God in Gilgal. And Samuel said, Hath the LORD as great delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices, as in obeying the voice of the LORD? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, and to hearken than the fat of rams. For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry. Because thou hast rejected the word of the LORD, he hath also rejected thee from being king.” 

You will notice from the scriptures above when Prophet Samuel confronted King Saul for not obeying God completely, he responded by saying “And Saul said unto Samuel, Yea, I have obeyed the voice of the LORD, and have gone the way which the LORD sent me, and have brought Agag the king of Amalek, and have utterly destroyed the Amalekites” 1 Samuel 15:20 (KJV). Unlike King David Instead of accepting his fault he was trying cover it and he even went to the extent of shifting blame on the people he was leading according to 1st Samuel 15:21(KJV) “But the people took of the spoil, sheep and oxen, the chief of the things which should have been utterly destroyed, to sacrifice unto the LORD thy God in Gilgal.” 

This attitude, among other ones, were King‘s Saul’s downfall. But the fascinating truth in this narrative is that, Just like King David, he finally accepted that he disobeyed and confessed his sins according to 1Samuel 15:24 (KJV) “And Saul said unto Samuel, I have sinned: for I have transgressed the commandment of the LORD, and thy words: because I feared the people, and obeyed their voice.”, but the difference between King David and King Saul was the fact that former quickly accepted his sins and acknowledge that he had sinned against God himself, but the latter-King Saul was trying to give excuses for his sins and shifting blames on his followers-King Saul knew in his heart that he did not fully obey God,  yet he was not accepting his shortcoming, that was why he was totally rejected by God. 

Remember what the scripture says in Proverbs 28:13 (KJV) “He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy.” Acceptance of ones sins and mistakes is not a sign of weakness as some might want us to believe, but it is a symbol of humility and the acknowledgement of the fact that there is nothing good in the flesh and without the help of Spirit of God man is useless. One of the major traits of pride is non acceptance of ones faults and blaming to others. That was the difference between King David and King Saul. Let’s look at  some of the steps in overcoming pornographic addiction:

·         Accept the fact that Pornography has far reaching Implication – From the previous articles in this series, I have sufficiently narrated the negative impact of pornographic addiction and the fact that it can destroy the very fiber of society. The case of King David is clear illustration in scripture according to 2nd Samuel 12:9 -15

·         Accepts the facts that you have a problem – Accepting the fact that you have a problem and you cannot overcome the strong desire of your flesh, is tendon to overcoming pornographic addiction. Having failed at his attempt to tame the sinful nature of the flesh Apostle Paul drew this conclusion in Romans 7:18(KJV) “For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh,) dwelleth no good thing: for to will is present with me; but how to perform that which is good I find not.” And he subsequently submitted his wretchedness to the Lordship of Christ in Romans 7:24 -25(KJV) “O wretched man that I am! who shall deliver me from the body of this death? I thank God through Jesus Christ our Lord. So then with the mind I myself serve the law of God; but with the flesh the law of sin.”

·         Humble Yourself – someone once said that “He who know how to wash his hands will eat with kings not mere men” and this how I understand this saying relative to our relationship with God “He who humbly forsake his sins will draw near to  divinity”. Remember the fact that God resist the proud and gives more grace to the humble and what the scriptures says in Psalm_51:17(KJV) “The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit: a broken and a contrite heart, O God, thou wilt not despise.” If one is genuinely sorry from the heart as regards the sin of sexual impropriety, God will not despised that person- one will surely find grace to overcome sexual addiction. Repentance from sin should not be predicated on grounds of avoiding punishment, but on the grounds of abhorrence for sin

·         Seek the face and Grace of God – The bible said that “Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded.” James 4:8 (KJV) - If we seek God in prayer we will find him and acquire grace in him to say no to pornographic addiction. It takes the grace of God to say no to the alluring tendencies of pornography, the scriptures say that Titus 2:11(KJV)  “For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men, teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world” Titus 2:11 (KJV). Without relying on the grace of God, you can never overcome pornographic addiction.

We must come to terms with the fact that without an effort on our part we can never overcome the pornographic addiction, we must will and be determined to overcome this nagging addiction. The bible says in Philippians 2:12 (KJV) “Wherefore, my beloved, as ye have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling.”  Next week will be rounding up on this long series with a sub title

“How to Overcome Pornographic Addiction 2”
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